“It’s not in the dreaming, it’s in the doing.”
I want to share with you what I have been working on. To sum it up, it’s EXACTLY like MX Zen but without the motorcycles. Since I have been going through this divorce it has changed me and Kyles life big time. Life literally picked us up, turned us over (as if we are in a cup) and dropped us out, SPLAT! Right to the ground. We have been afraid, sad, happy, mad, moved around so much we have claimed the label Nomads, we have lost many people in our lives, we have gained new friends, and strengthened our relationships with the people who have just always been there unconditionally. To be honest, what we have experienced the past 4 years of our lives broke us down to our core and was a living hell.
No matter how troublesome life can become, you are in control of your emotions, decisions and outlooks on situations. Try not to dwell on how empty or full your life, or the lives of others, might be. Believing that you have control over how much water is poured into the glass of life is a powerful skill.
To me I only had 2 choices, both I considered. Go with it, face it, embrace the experience, learn the lesson OR give up and die. Literally die!!! Kyle said many times he wants to die and he was so broken that he has been to a couple therapist and many of the school staff continuously were involved. My friends and family have been the greatest help to Kyle.
I don’t remember the hospital visit or my brother Gabe picking me and and bringing me home. I don’t remember calling my best friend Maura at 3 am that same day after my brother went home. Evidently, I told Maura I needed help bc somebody was trying to kill me. I just remember coming home on Sunday with a 🐷 , yes, I drove 2 hours each way and came home with a pig. When I arrived home, before I even reached my driveway, the panic set in, and I blacked out. Kyle called 911. I remember the medics saying “it’s hard to believe that your son is 8. He is incredible. He had such control and did everything the dispatch asked of him. He knew the answers to every question which allowed us to help you. When we arrived he came out to meet us and direct us to the correct house. It’s as if we were dealing with an educated adult in this tiny boy body”. Kyle saved me. He shouldn’t have had to.
“Doesn’t matter if the glass is half-empty or half-full. All that matters is that you are the one pouring the water.”
“Work like there is someone working 24 hours a day to take it away from you.”
“Erika, I’m here for you. I know you don’t know me but I believe in you. I see all of the things you have done to help others. Well I’m here to help you any way that I can. So when you’re ready, call or text. I will be here for you”.~ Chris Fickel
This was the defining moment in my life. I am now doing what I love. I am working with people, I am learning with them and from them, we are helping others, I am living.
- You are and will always be replaceable.
- You will spend more time at the office than you will at your house.
- You will spend more time with your coworkers than you will with your family.
- You will work harder than you ever have for the somebody else’s dream.
- You will learn a lot about business.
- You will never be truly happy.
- You will be let go when you least expect it.
- You will be devalued.
- You will have to start all over again.
- You most likely dont have a plan B because you had comfort working for somebody else.
- You most likely didn’t prepare for your retirement and if you did, your retirement plan potentially wouldn’t fund 1 year.
We have more control over the “doing” than we give ourselves credit. If you spend all of your time dreaming, you will never grant yourself the opportunity to see what you are truly capable of accomplishing.
Life can get repetitive, consistent and complacent. Falling into a life or workplace of complacency is dangerous. Seek opportunities and take risks that are out of your comfort zone. Work for a company that is constantly changing, growing and evolving.
“Every no gets me closer to a yes.”